What is Cynicism Trying to Tell Us?

I've been thinking a lot about cynicism and I think cynicism overall is a signal that a thought or feeling we have about a person or situation is incomplete. There's an experience, an emotion or piece of information that is missing and we fill that void with what we've experienced so far. The definition of cynicism is about distrust in people's self-interest in comparison to an expected behavior. Self-interest and expected behavior are the important bits. But there's a general pessimism association as well, an assumption of Ill-intent, so I'm thinking about it in those terms. So when I say incomplete, this could mean either missing an experience of a type of person's energy or a moving ahead on an idea so fast that you're always missing the core of who someone is or creating perpetual assumption of character. Skimming the surface. Or it could be that we've seen the depths of a few and continuing to dive deep seems pointless. An overvaluing of pattern recognition. We think we have everything we need to know about someone or a type of someone and therefore it applies to someone else taking this action. If we're always jumping ahead of where we assume someone is going to be, we'll always miss them and remain cynical because our orientation to them will always be off-center. It can be a degree of restlessness in that there is always an unknown as you explore the unknown. If you're persistently cynical then it may be a signal of persistent dissatisfaction or feeling incomplete. Likely due to not wanting to continue exploring what needs to be explored. This feeling of being complete in understanding someone or a people could be moreso about your perpetual movement in relation to people. Even if they move close, you continue to create distance. If someone comes to hug you and you move, you won't receive the hug. "They didn't hug me. They're a jerk and forever a jerk." That's a matter of interpretation of factual completeness versus perceived completeness in an experience of someone. In short, we know what we think we know consciously. Cynicism may be an unconscious awareness that there's more to learn, which is why it doesn't feel very good. I would not classify cynicism as high vibrational energy. I'd say cynicism is a reaction to not fully knowing someone's intent, motivation, and path. The way out of perpetual cynicism is a practice of acceptance and empathy as to why someone does something, even yourself, and continue to be curious..person to person. You may be fully aware of how you're always moving out of bounds with self-interest and that self-awareness leads to assumptions of others' intent. It may also be an assumption that their lack of self-awareness of their own motivations is a bad thing. What motivates us simply IS what motivates us. The good or bad association with said motivation is attached to the social interpretations of morality and expected behavior. Another aspect of our unconscious reaction. Remove the good and bad holistic perception of people and you begin simply seeing motivations as human and for what they are without judgement. We all want to sleep, eat, reproduce, breathe, have shelter, be seen, be or feel important. We can be cynical about those motivations by assigning good or bad or we can see that people do things because they feel they must and therefore leaves not much room for cynicism at all. So cynicism, if you've been following along, is mostly about orientation, exploration, and expectation. You need to welcome the reality of someone's motivation into view. Allow for exposure to individual motivations and remove your own expectation before that exposure. In short, perpetual cynicism may be a sign that you need to get out of your own way to see the forest for the trees. And redefining our relationship with cynicism is not about being defenseless, and opening all the gates. It's about our relationship to assumption and the carrying of that assumption through perpetual mistrust. You can acknowledge someone's motivation and still close the gate.

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